What are some unique things that sucks about getting old?
3d 20h ago by kbin.melroy.org/u/pyrinix in asklemmy
When your mind and body doesn't correlate eachother anymore as they used to. Your body wants to say "hey! lets go out and do things!" but your mind tends to go "Nah, I just want to sit here and think about stuff" and sometimes it is the opposite.
Doors close and options narrow. The way you think about the future fundamentally changes.
You have to remember not to project your decline onto culture, society, and the world. You have to remember that many, many things are better now than when you were young.
The lack of energy and the rise of depression.
I didn't fart all the time when I was younger
Thats diet changes
And gut bacteria changes caused by ageing.
Thats also related to diet though. (Not sure if its aging as well)
Really didn't charge my diet at all. Very diversified, lots of vegfies and fruits, always have been eating bread and milky products, drinking alcohol from time to time...
I don't know if there's anything unique about aging. The shittiest part of aging IMO is the random life-changing medical events you cannot foresee or prevent. It could be as simple as stumbling on uneven ground and tearing your ACL, or as extreme as being diagnosed with some unusual cancer.
I was told once many years ago by a retired (kinda) member of a major biker gang the following:
"Getting old ain't for pussies."
I was around twelve, he wasn't lying, I'm forty-six now. All the stupid crap you have done early on in your life will come back around and cause aches and pains. You have to force yourself to keep moving through the pain or you will end up doing next to nothing every chance you get.
My mind has always kept me at home so I can't say much there, I've never been to a club and rarely go to bars. I'm just not a social person.
That quote is actually from a former German TV celebrity, Joachim Fuchsberger. It’s the title of his 2011 autobiography.
https://www.amazon.de/Altwerden-ist-nichts-f%C3%BCr-Feiglinge/dp/3579067605
When you're peeing and you finish peeing, so you put it away and then you pee a little more in your pants
Female here, but iirc that last little bit came down fresh from your kidneys into your bladder as soon as the bladder empties. I just wait like a minute til that extra comes out before I finish up if I'm not wearing a liner and it works. Idk if it would work for men tho? Hopefully? 😂
That's why you gotta use a plug
Getting old is a sniper's alley. You're running through, and all around you people are getting picked off, dropping to the ground. Cancer, stroke, dementia, falling down the stairs. Somehow you're still going, brilliant! But then you find a lump, or get chest pains...
So far I'm one of the lucky ones, still dodging the bullets but hoping for a good clean end when it's my turn.
I'm hit! Woman down! Slipped on the ice and am now in hospital with a fucked-up knee. Waiting for an MRI scan, spending the night here. Codeine isn't helping, hoping for some hillbilly heroin.
On the bright side I have excellent friends and neighbours. I feel loved.
You stop making new friends, and the friends you've had move away, don't have time anymore due to family and job, and eventually start dying off.
If you don't make a conscious effort and invest time into creating new friendships (with considerable difficulty since you yourself are tied to "adult" obligations), you can end up alone with withered social skills before you realize it.
There's also the danger of collecting bad memories or feelings of regret tied to certain activities, like "I should start playing the guitar again...but I already tried to get back into it multiple times, so why bother?"
If you aren't careful that will lead to stopping doing the things you once enjoyed, with no new hobbies to take their place.
all the upvotes.
bad feelings have poisoned the majority of my past memories and relationships and hobbies. as a result, i have had to abandon so so many of them that it hurts. and it is very difficult to figure out what comes next for me.
If you don't make a conscious effort and invest time into creating new friendships (with considerable difficulty since you yourself are tied to "adult" obligations), you can end up alone with withered social skills before you realize it.
One of the things I did when I was in my 20's and 30's that I'm really glad I did, was to always be willing to relocate. I did it about 5 times for new jobs, once for a new school, and twice for a romantic relationship (including with the woman I ended up marrying). I made new friends in each city, and kept those "new friendship" social skills over time. Now I've settled into a specific place with my family, but I have friends all over the U.S., know a little bit about a lot of cities and their neighborhoods and the local culture, and perhaps most importantly, know what I'm looking for in friendships and relationships.
I made new friends in my 30's because I absolutely had to, living in a city where I only knew one other person. And now I'm still making new friends occasionally in my 40's because I like to: colleagues and neighbors and fellow parents from my kids' schools, etc.
The friends I used to have not only moved away, but moved away to Florida
Most contemporary music sounds like shit. I try to stay current to at least within the last 3 years, but the older I get, the more it just sounds like shit.
South Park did an episode about it, and they were spot on.
I disagree. Am 40 now and still find new music (and genres) I like.
Oh yeah, I'm the same. It just gets rarer and rarer each year that I find something I can enjoy. Objectively, it has nothing to do with the quality of modern music (well, maybe a little lol) just the styles changing and my taste not keeping up.
But 1980-1999 music was Objectively better.
Right?
I would like to think so.
For some reason the music that came out when I was between 15 and 25 years old was the best!
I love classic rock and older Blues, so Spotify Wrapped says I have the musical taste of a 79 year old
As long as it isn't your health app...
If you're into rock, check out The Warning. Three young sisters from Mexico who make very solid rock and are brilliant live!
In terms of contemporary music, do you mean pop / radio songs?
Hard to quantify it, so bear with me.
Not so much a specific genre or distribution medium as much as "the artist/band was born after 9/11". Like, there are some bands that have been around forever and still putting out new stuff and that's mostly fine (though I don't necessarily like all of it) but anything overly electronic is basically a hard pass for me.
This reads as if nothing of the last 25 years is good to you. What do you like? Do you like rock or metal? There's been like 6 golden eras of heavy metal in that time period. Australian rock and metal has been fire for about 20 years. The rise and fall of Djent as a genre. Black metal finally getting with the times production wise. There's as deep a well in those two genres as there's ever been.
Oh fair enough, I actually wanted to mention some music that you may like due to their uniqueness and raw feeling of pain like STOMACH BOOK, femtanyl but technically they are electronical, so you may not like that.
Maybe you would like Lift You Up by Danny Brown. The beat kinda has a ps2 rally vibe to for me. https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=lift+you+up+danny+brown
Minor injuries or illnesses taking forever to heal...
Or hangovers. Honestly I can’t drink anymore because a single beer makes me tired and a second beer leaves me with a hangover. Where’s that buzz that used to make a beer or two enjoyable?
All your freinds start dropping dead like flies.
While I haven’t yet had that happen, they’re all talking about retiring soon, they all have hearing issues, and none of us have energy to have fun anymore
I am 68 so it’s prime time for boomer friend pop offs right now. I was 100% healthy until 59 and then I got a pinched nerve in my back, sciatica and neuropathy all within 6 months. Now I can only walk 10 paces and I have to sit. I don’t have a fair assessment of aging cuz that shit stepped in but if I did not have all that crap I would just say arthritis bugs me.
Pulling a muscle because I sneezed too hard.
Worrying about if I'll have enough to retire on, if I can retire at all. Worrying about health, the drop in spice tolerance, waking up stiff. Eyesight starting to deteriorate. Wanting to be more social, but would often rather just stay home. Maybe not so unique, but worth a mention.
With a lot of experiences, many things feel repetitive and uninteresting. Making sure not to bring that energy everywhere takes a bit of practice. Health worries of course. People you know also getting old or disappearing. Losing parents if you haven’t already. Being expected to just get up and adult your way through it, somehow. And you do.
Making sure not to bring that energy everywhere takes a bit of practice.
I remember an interview of Quincy Jones where he was just shit talking popular music of that time (maybe early 2010s), and ran through a bunch of examples, basically explaining where every musical element (particular chord progressions, instrumental combinations, beats/rhythms, etc.) that made it into whatever current popular song, was first pioneered by some recording artist he had worked with in some earlier decade.
He obviously knew a ton about music, from classical to jazz to pop to hip hop to country, but it was an interesting glimpse into the mind of a person who was basically saying "I've realized there's nothing new to me anymore."
With a lot of experiences, many things feel repetitive and uninteresting. I'm here in my professional life and I still have 20 or so years to go. Even new jobs end up beings about the same types of issues, only with a shit ton of info to swallow before you know what you're doing...
Need a longer runway.
The warmup takes ages, no matter what I'm doing.
I’m me of the fundamental changes for me was …..
FROM: oh good a new project to learn, a new tool to buy
TO: I don’t want to deal with fixing that again or having to buy yet another tool. How expensive can it be to just pay someone and have it done?
Sometimes things just stop working for no apparent reason, and you phone the doctor then play the "well, hopefully this isn't permanent" waiting game which is fun. Current case: earwax or just deaf in one ear now?
Have you guys noticed the size of basically all text has gotten smaller and harder to read? It has made a lot of posts I encounter online just absolutely none of my business.
Oh also my back hasn’t not hurt like hell for like 8 years.
Yeah eyesight diminishing and needing reading glasses has been a difficult reality for me. I feel like im chained to them!
55m here.
Half the energy, but still all the work plus some to do.
The things I dislike the most about getting old is 1) all the obligations and lack of free time. Partly my fault, I love being a dad, but I could use a break. 2) recovery isn't as fast as it used to be. What used to be hours is now a day. What used to be a day is now days. Etc etc
Having to go to old people parties.
It's rather go to diy underground shows, but I'm dad aged now.
I rust wasn't too rave and dance, but I feel like most of the kids would be creeped out.
I rust wasn’t too rave and dance
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*I just wanted to rave and dance-
ty!
It goes through a weirdness peak between 30 and 50. Once you get to a certain age and stop giving "hello fellow kids" vibes nobody cares.
Things take just that little bit longer to do. Walking somewhere, shopping, mowing, even getting ready to go out. I have to adjust my timetable, extend the time it takes to do things, which cuts into my day, leaving less time for the things I want to do. Which always happened, it's just that now it takes longer.
No longer being welcome in spaces you helped build.
Holy shit that hits hard
would you drink Bailey's from a shoe?
I’m sure it’s not unique to getting old as there could be other causes, but for me it’s been that my grip strength wanes and I drop things pretty regularly now. I used to fence and sword spar and I had gotten used to barely holding things so I wouldn’t break them. Now if I’m not thinking about it, things just kind of fall out of my hands. Very weird thing to realize.
As a very tall dude, back pain.
I deal with early onset arthritis pain occasionally, but back pain legit sucks way more!
Even as short boy, backpain sucks
I don't wanna sound degrading, butt fuck that must suck.
Also take an aspirin or two before your cyclobenzaprine.
It doesnt hurt that much for me. Took some money and bought a new office chair. My back already feels lots more relaxed
Link a mfer to that chair!
Yes sir! Here you are!
Its really comfortable and feels beautiful its build for taal people but my tiny ass still is so smooth and relaxed on it. I do not know if you can get it though
the thing you realize as you get older is that the spine is holding the whole shitshow together, and you rely on it constantly. so when it's fucked, everything is fucked.
I'm not particularly old by any reasonable standard, but the biggest shock to me upon entering adulthood was how there's always some fucking thing that needs doing. Doesn't matter if it's chores, bills, or other shit, there's always something.
Yea this is something I'm dealing with as a self employed young adult now. Its genuinely getting on my nerves when friends in college or younger complaining about being super bored and saying "there's nothing to do!!".
There are certainly times I don't want to do anything but I never have the opportunity of being "bored"
Losing the physical abilities that you've relied on your whole life. Had back surgery 3 years ago. I can barely walk now because of pain in my hips. My strength is gone. It's a fucking kick in the dick.
Having to wait a few seconds after peeing to make sure that you're really done peeing becaue sometimes there's that little surprise burp at the end that if you put your dick away too soon will be a spot on your underwear. Not a big one, mind you; you're not peeing yourself. Just that last little straggler running to catch up.
That's why I'm one of the few guys that actually wipes down after pissing because I don't want that. It's uncomfortable as well as embarrassing to deal with.
Too many times I've witnessed other guys who'd be done with their business and zip up without a care. Their crotches have to be smelling like piss and that's just gross.
Kids calling you names. Im 23 and they say im old!! Wtf?!
You’re 23, so you should stop worrying about children calling you names.
I am not worried. It still is infuriating and baffling
Your just not with it man.
Oh, I used to be with it, but then they changed what it was, now what I am isn't, and what is it is weird and scary to me. And it will happen to you.
I have never been with "it". :)