Still right
19h 35m ago by lemmy.world/u/SpaceFacts in memes
I would also be completely confused and offended for the rest of my life if a teacher had said something like that to me
I was grateful that my teachers were chill with this
I'd finish my math work while the teacher was still explaining it to the class, and just start reading a book. Teacher was fine with it because I was a good student and got good grades.
Rant incoming
Although I do have one particular gripe with that teacher unrelated to any of that. Question was how far was a person in a pool from the life guard on a life guard tower. I found the hypotenuse, moved on to other questions. Got marked wrong so I brought it up to the teacher, and her explanation was that she wanted the distance from the person to the tower (the BOTTOM of the tower?????) under the logic that you wouldn't just float on up in a straight line to the life guard. First of all, the question was specifically worded as distance from person to life guard, NOT travel distance. Secondly to the BOTTOM of the life guard tower??? You wanted that value, not even the added distance of the length to the bottom of the tower and the length to climb the tower??????
If you asked me how far away a plane in the sky is from me, and I answered 5 feet, I'd look like a damn idiot.
I kind of wish I pushed her on that question harder. I kind of just thought "good lord she's out of her mind" and sat back down because it had little to no impact on my grade. But I have lived years being pissed about getting that question wrong, I simply cannot move on from it.
don't worry random-internet-person, I just graded your answer and found that you were correct and that other person grading you was wrong.
so you know, you can move on now?
In 2nd grade I decided one day to just complete my entire 2nd grade math book because it was easy for me at the time. Their solution was to force me to go into a third grade class for math but I quit because it meant I lost one of my recesses and thought that was bullshit. Honestly, surprised no one followed up and forced me to go back at any point. I just stopped going and no one said anything.
I just found out this weekend the the algebraic (super easy) shortcut to divide an integer by a fraction that I showed my son - was referred to as ‘cheating’ by the teacher, who said the people who grade the SATs would mark him down for that.
I’m actually quite confused about that.
Ha! I worked in Test Prep and College Admissions consultation for nearly a decade at a fairly prestigious company in a major city with major private schools (major money and major lineage/legacy) and unless there have been major changes to the SAT/ACT since the pandemic that teacher is completely full of shit. There isn't even a guessing penalty anymore on the SAT let alone any way for them to know how a student comes to the answers they choose. You don't have to even turn in your work when you turn in the test.
Sounds like the teacher felt stupid or threatened or both and made up nonsense to combat their own failing. And honestly, I would consider giving bad advice that could impact a student's future malpractice. That was actually the standard for teaching algebra when I was in school so a teacher telling your kid it is cheating is beyond confusing. It's borderline abusive and at the very least completely incompetent.
Could be worse. I once received a Saturday detention for "defiance" because I pointed out a mistake the teacher had made on an algebra problem.
Contempt of cop teacher
Similar rant. In the second grade our teacher (FUCK YOU MRS MURRY) had drawn the orbit of the Earth around the sun and was telling us that because it was elliptical and that's why we had summer; the Earth was closer to the sun and the sun was warm.
She basically drew an oval on the chalkboard and put the sun smack in the center. It didn't make any sense to me so I kept asking why there weren't two summers in a year if an orbit was a year and the earth passed close the sun twice...
It wasn't until the 3rd or 4th grade when I got a hold of an illustrated astronomy book that showed our titled planet and explained the seasons.
omg it's not just wrong it's doubly wrong 😭. why was she allowed to teach
That was a poorly worded question, and a not so bright teacher. I'd be pissed too
This could be a nice lesson about the taxicab metric and the Euclidean metric, but that doesn't seem like the intention.
Reminds me of one of my elementary school English teachers. We were all given a blank hardcover book and had to make a story with illustrations. Mine was called "The Loose Kitty". Every page basically had the kitty on the loose in different areas of a city, running into other animals that had some rhyming. I spent so much time with the art, proofing it, etc. This teacher took hard red ink and strikes through loose and put "lost" ON EVERY PAGE. I tried to tell her no it is loose because EVERYTHING IN THE BOOK related to being "on the loose". Nope. Got like a C- on that thing.
Am I still sour about it 30 years later? Yes, I still loose my shit.
to be fair she probably understood the concept of a kitten on the loose, but wanted to nudge you away from filling your book with innuendo without having to explain the concept of an un-tight and/or readily available vagina
Not all who wander are lost, bitch.
This one hurt for even me to read
Sound's like your an pour loster.
What a bitch! I never thought the comments in this post would raise my blood pressure
You were writing a picture book for kids, so it's important to communicate clearly. It should have been titled "Kitty on the Loose", to teach kids the correct version of the phrase. The kitty isn't loose, it's on the loose. The former is an unconventional grammar construction that small children don't need to learn to navigate. Save those Shakespearen grammar innovations for adult stories.
Its because teachers hate the idea that a smart student isn't enthusiastic about the topic they're teaching and that they'd do clearly what is their bare minimum and then mentally drop out. Its insecurity.
I had a ton of teachers like this.
My music teacher was pretty angry that I clearly only picked the subject because I didn't want to take art or PE.
I wasn't there due to any passion for it, did the absolute minimum, and the only way it's affected my life is that I keep thinking about how annoyed he was.
Eh, that's the system so I can't fault you. But specialty electives like that usually have limited seats - your seat may have displaced someone much more enthralled with the subject.
Also I guarantee they sucked at it and made everyone else sound worse by association. Childhood visual art classes are way easier than music anyway, it doesn't even have to look like anything. It's extremely obvious when someone doesn't know what they're doing in a music class.
Well, music is kind of a team sport, I'd be pissed if one of the percussionists could never hit the damn triangle at the right time.
This used to be my mentality in regards to work for the majority of my early twenties. Turns out pretty much every job out there will give you more work to do if you are too efficient. Eventually it reaches a point where you have too much on your plate and start getting burned out fairly quickly yet you've set the bar so high that anything less than maximum efficiency is considered lazy.
My new method is to work at 50%-70% efficiency while at work and I take my time on everything I'm asked to do. I've worked my ass off for about a decade at various jobs and was only rewarded with more work. I'll save my efficiency for the things I actually care about in my life.
I have a coworker that is currently in the situation I was in five years ago. He's working late every single day and barely has any time for personal business because he worked too hard at the beginning to "climb the ladder" that he's now overworked and miserable as more things keep getting piled on top. I was talking to him the other day and he was saying that he started working on the weekends because he has so much shit he has to do.
I actually started getting more recognition when I started producing 60-70 % or less instead of 120 %. It was like management thought that, if my tasks took longer, it was probably because I was very thorough and the task was very difficult, even though the end result would be the same. If I solved a task in 1 day, instead of 5 days, they regarded the task as easy instead of me being good. The slower i worked, the more applause I got from my manager... But, he was also an idiot... But, i wouldn't be surprised if this was a pattern in other companies as well.
I learned that lesson in high school. Always more tasks if you finish any
I used to try to smash through everything as quick as I could. I would've told you I was just quick and efficient but I think the reality was I was usually tired or hungover or daydreaming about whatever thing and just didn't have the attention span to do a good job.
I've been self employed for the last 10 years or so, which means extra efficiency on my part doesn't reward anyone else.
However, during that time I've become a lot more methodical and diligent. I am consistently accurate. Basically because I need to own any oversights, which can be very costly, I make far fewer.
Exactly! Employers and managers typically won’t know either, unless they are micromanagers who track your every move. If this was a start up and doing more will have a big impact, then putting in more effort is justified. Med/large company? Nahhh
My mental model is somewhat orthogonal to this, 100% efficiency by definition is the most I can sustainably do indefinitely. I can probably do 150% if I really need to, but not for very long at all, and I'm usually between 85-105%.
If I'm doing ~30 hours a week of work I've been asked to do, or needs to get done, and doing 8-10 hours a week of whatever I think is important to prioritize, I'm probably in a pretty good place. I don't tend to get overly rewarded with more work, and I'm still recognized as doing valuable and important stuff by my teammates.
If someone is doing way more than 40 hours in a week on more than a very rare occasion, some layer of management has failed, and if it's the norm, the whole system has failed. I'm well aware that may be working as designed, but I would contend it was simply designed to fail.
Do just enough work to avoid getting fired.
Act your wage is the rule I usually go with
A teacher once said to me, for acting antisocial: "if you keep pushing people away: one day, they'll just leave you alone"
I wasn't doing it for attention. I'm very glad to be largely left alone now. It's great.
“Antisocial” doesn’t mean “introverted”
Yeah like I've never actually had enough of this solitude people kept threatening me with
Are you sure you don't mean asocial?
Depends on how pissed off I was that day...
Out of curiosity, how old are you now?
I used to sleep in my accounting class. Another student got offended and was like why doesn’t he just skip? My teacher said he comes in, gets straight As, he can take a nap if he likes.
This was me in highschool, I was so bored of the pace we were going at, so I skipped a lot of classes, came in and aced tests, not with the correct answers they were looking for, but still correct. 🤣
This was me including the AP classes. Then I got accepted to a really good engineering school and got my ass handed to me because I never developed proper study skills.
See I use to do the same in history but I got an F. Loser
This was me in world history and chemistry. I napped and got woken up if no one else had the answer in the former, woke up after the lab was explained (that was just regurgitating what was in the lab sheets) then did the lab in the latter
Based
My HS football coach once called me the dumbest smart kid he’d ever met because I kept mixing up my assignments for each play. Highest GPA on the team…
Didn’t get my ADHD diagnosis until I was 39, lol
I had a similar problem.
Once, in school, i did all my homework fast. We had a week to do it, i handed it in after a day only. The teacher saw that, thought i'm very interested or that they give us too little homework, and then increased homework for me and everyone else. I learned not to do things quickly. It will only backfire.
This is the way.
Don't procrastinate the work....just procrastinate the turn-in.
This way, you can feign being busy and be done at the same time! Nobody needs to know that you're done. That means you can slack off right up until the last possible second, completely stress-free.
If you start showing your hand, they're gonna start expecting more from you. And what will you get in return? Maybe an extra 0.5% on your raise? Nah brah. Keep it. 0.5% on 100k is $500/yr. Is less than $10/wk...after taxes, they barely bought you a coffee every week.
By all means...work at a medium pace while you're new. Don't want to get caught while you're still green. But once you're comfortable in a place...
Real life advice.
I go in a bit earlier than most coworkers and am super productive for the first few hours. Then I have lunch and coast. That's my routine basically every day.
I'm "lazy" in that same way and I always bring it up when I'm asked what my strengths are in interviews. I don't like doing unnecessary work. I will be the one automating tasks and finding more efficient ways to do things while other people are wasting their time doing it the long way, purely because I want to waste less time on it.
My professional burden has been saddled with people who want applause for taking twice as long to less than 50% of the same amount. And those numbers are probably generous.
My first grade teacher criticized me for not cutting straight enough on some time waster paper piecing project we were doing. Sorry for not having perfect motor control, I’m 6??
6? You were a year behind already! ;)
Where’s that behind? In the US 5 year olds go to kindergarten, and 6 year olds to 1st grade. Sorry if some joke is wooshing me lol
Depends on the birthday cutoff. My daughter will be a 6yo kindergartner for most of it because she'll be five for the first few months of the school year
Damn does your family still remind you of it 30 years later and are you me?
The problem is psychopaths are driven to leadership and they're not actually good at anything.
Basically their ego tells them that they're pareto people when they're really not and society can't tell the difference. Mostly they just steal labor. And they're too stupid and insecure to identify and empower the most efficient people.
Wtf does that have to do with the post
That was my question but I thought I was just being high.
All teachers are psychopaths. Get with the program
Just reminded me what Pareto Principle was and now I have business school PTSD. Thanks.
It actually might be a fundamental principal of the universe like the Fibunnacci sequence. It shows up everywhere, there's a great old vsauce episode on it.
Sure. Still doesn't resolve the PTSD from BS management classes though lol.
You just described MAGA.
I remember being told I needed to do homework at home and my assigned work at school. I was fast enough that I got through the assignment and started on my homework. Teacher told me to stop. I kept at it as I figured it was better than sitting around bored out of my skull. Teacher lost her shit and I got sent to the principal's office.
As a kid, this confused me. However, I kept doing it.
I loved to read, so if I got my work or test done quickly, I had time to read while everybody else was still.workung.
I was especially good with reading tests, because I was always the best reader in my classes in elementary school. I was always the first done.
I had a teacher who said the same bullshit. But she also fucking sucked at her job. She taught typing and computer literacy but did not actually know how to use a computer and just hated every student that knew more than her.
I see you also had Mrs. Anz for computer class.
When I was a kid, I noticed that I was consistently finishing My work early, so I asked the teacher for the next lesson's work. I wanted to speed through the entire year's coursework and finish early so I could have an extended summer.
Teacher said no, but I got My wish in the end. I got to skip an entire year of school. Didn't get any more summer, though.
I did a pretty similar thing in school. I was playing a LOT of World of Warcraft and I was in raiding guilds with consistent and long raid times. So I'd go out of my way to get as much of my schoolwork done ahead of time as possible. I'd eat in class so I could work on my HW during lunch, I'd get like a week ahead on any work that I was able to such as reading textbook chapters. All so that I could make sure I never missed a raid night.
Unfortunately this kind of all fell apart in senior year of HS. WAAAAAAY too much work to ever keep up, so I had to stop playing.
Unfortunately? I’d call that fortunate. Glad you made it out of WoW alive
I had something similar in elementary school. There was an assignment given and something like 2 hours to do it. The reward was extra recess time. I saw the exercise knew I could do it quickly so I screwed around for about 1 hour and 50 minutes. The teacher saw this and commented on it. In the last 10 minutes I blasted out the assignment, handing it in when everyone else did. I received a passing grade on the assignment. The teacher stopped me anyway from getting the extra recess time because she didn't like that I spent so little time on the assignment even though I completed it sufficiently.
I stopped trusting teachers for years because of that and so no reason to put in full effort when arbitrarily applied rules would take away the rewards anyway. That didn't mean I didn't put effort into learning, it just didn't really care about scoring well or doing assignments. I'd do well on tests, but had low grades from simply not completing or not turning in homework. Occasionally I'd even do the homework if I was working on grasping the concept being taught, but I didn't see a point of even turning those in many times even though they were complete.
Quick ≠ good
Quick ≠ bad
Tell that to your wife
Yeah but if the work were bad, she probably would've included that in the criticism, because it's a way better criticism
People often frame themselves the hero
People often argue using bad assumptions.
I got the same insult as a child. I just thought "ah she's stupid" and moved on and never thought about it until I saw this post
A task is always only so big that the weakest child can do it. That's often not enough to learn something thoroughly.
Me not showing my work in math. Always getting the right answer, but not showing the tedious details.
Whelp, math is all about the tedious details
You're correct, but it's a bit rude to call them a whelp.
Whoops, didn't intend to call them a whelp. Just stramge quirk of me talking (welp, should write it like this, without the h. Is just an abreviation of well)
"Welp" is an abbreviation for "well"?
Absolutely you smoke a little and suddenly you're scrubbing the space behind the toilets and undersides of sinks.
This works, until it doesn't. And then you can't go back and find the mistake, and save time by both realizing the error part and not having to redo it all to get there.
I get it, I was bad about that too, but any form of writing improves the understanding of the concepts because it uses a different part of the brain that I think retains better than the one doing the thinking work.
Its like commenting in code. If you have good comments, it can help you find the error. No comments and gotta spend the time figuring out where it went wrong.
Yes. It's like code comments.
We all do that, so understand your point.
All of us...
I once had a teacher write “I have no idea how you got here, but this correct” on a test.
I’d forgotten some trig identity and derived the cosine law and then solved for all the angles with it to get the answer.
It was like that math joke where a mathematician is asked to boil water. The first time he takes the pot off the shelf, fills it with water, then puts it on the stove and boils it.
The next day he’s asked to boil water again. The pot is on the counter with water in it. He dumps the water out, and puts it back on the shelf, as that is a known solved state for boiling water.
So why memorize the formula we were studying when I could just solve more angles and then get the lengths.
It's usually an understandable thing to expect for a math problem, but sometimes they can get pretty petty with it when the skipped parts are obvious for that level of understanding
Why the fuck would you do it any other way? A teacher once called me a minimalist, because I always did the bare minimum to not fail. I still don't see that as a negative comment.
I see why you would be working as an electrician.
JK, I'm the same way. I'm fast and good at my job and that's why I'm not cheap.
That's a bonus award in Smash Bros Melee, did they also call you a bird of prey or peaceful warrior? Maybe you misinterpreted.
I basically did the same, except I front-loaded all of the hard work into the first 18 years of my life.
I always pulled out that Mark Twain quote about giving extremely hard jobs to lazy people because they'd figure out the easiest way to do them.
I've always been like this. I power through all the work (school, chores, etc.) just so I can have the free time to do nothing. My ultimate goal has always been to clear my schedule so I can decide what to do with my time.
I think I overdid it. I retired at 38 years old and I've now spent the last 4 years sitting around my house with all the free time I can imagine.
Dude how tf did u manage to retire at 38 and have a house? Like u must be literally a millionaire.
Pretty much any old software dev job in the US in the past 20 years would've gotten you there. Bonus points if you stay with your parents the whole time so you avoid housing costs, then buy in a low cost of living area.
I had a great manager a few years ago. Basically it was a manufacturing job. At the beginning of the shift(or near it) he would come by you and say something like "I need 150 devices done tonight". Near the end of the shift he would come by and ask how many devices you got done.
As long as you got done the number he asked for he didn't care. Take an extra 10 minutes on lunch? Having stomach issues and used the bathroom for 30 minutes? Take a personal phone call? Had a chat with a co-worker about how they got engaged this weekend? All perfectly acceptable, as long as you got done with the 150 devices. If a machine broke or some material ran out so you couldn't complete it? Acceptable because it was outside of your control.
That said, if you didn't get the number he wanted done but everything at your station was fine I'll describe him with 3 attributes 1. Puerto Rican 2. Ex-marine 3. Drill Sargent!
Next few days he would be on you for every thing since you showed you couldn't be trusted to do what was expected. He would check periodically that you were at your station. He would check every hour or so to make sure you were on schedule to get the required work done that day instead of just checking at end of day. This of course added extra work for him which he didn't like. Do it too often and you had a not so nice "meeting".
But... Do what was expected (almost always reasonable) and he left you alone. You didn't have to watch a clock for exact minutes. It was assumed you were an adult and could accomplish what was asked without constant monitoring, until you proved you couldn't.
I suppose it could be a criticism of the quality of the work: i.e. you finish it quickly but it's half-arsed because you were too lazy to take the time to do it properly.
I've said for years that efficiency is just high functioning laziness. So long as you got the job done and done right or to your best ability, you did it perfectly no matter how long it took you. If you have time to spare, that is your time to do with as you please. Fuck anyone that says it is your responsibility to maximize production after your requirements are met.
efficiency is just high functioning laziness
Reminds me of discussions about how economists working for capitalist oligarchs, define efficiency in terms of value extracted per dollar invested without taking into amount negative externalities like environmental destruction or worker well-being. Such economists are “lazy” about those last two points which, for billionaires that hire them to get their next corporate merger approved, is a feature, not a bug.
Your comment reminds me that every efficiency is tightly coupled to a specific goal that benefits a particular group of people that may not necessarily include myself.
Chapter 40 of The Ministry for the Future by Kim Stanley Robinson
Jevons Paradox proposes that increases in efficiency in the use of a resource lead to an overall increase in the use of that resource, not a decrease. William Stanley Jevons, writing in 1865, was referring to the history of the use of coal; once the Watt engine was introduced, which greatly increased the efficiency of coal burning as energy creation, the use of coal grew far beyond the initial reduction in the amount needed for the activity that existed before the time of the improvement.
The rebound effect of this paradox can be mitigated only by adding other factors to the uptake of the more efficient method, such as requirements for reinvestment, taxes, and regulations. So they say in economics texts.
The paradox is visible in the history of technological improvements of all kinds. Better car miles per gallon, more miles driven. Faster computer times, more time spent on computers. And so on ad infinitum. At this point it is naïve to expect that technological improvements alone will slow the impacts of growth and reduce the burden on the biosphere. And yet many still exhibit this naiveté.
Associated with this lacuna in current thought, perhaps a generalization of its particular focus, is the assumption that efficiency is always good. Of course efficiency as a measure has been constructed to describe outcomes considered in advance to be good, so it’s almost a tautology, but the two can still be destranded, as they are not quite the same. Examination of the historical record, and simple exercises in reductio ad absurdum like Jonathan Swift’s “A Modest Proposal”, should make it obvious that efficiency can become a bad thing for humans. Jevons Paradox applies here too, but economics has normally not been flexible enough to take on this obvious truth, and it is very common to see writing in economics refer to efficiency as good by definition, and inefficient as simply a synonym for bad or poorly done. But the evidence shows that there is good efficiency and bad efficiency, good inefficiency and bad inefficiency. Examples of all four can easily be provided, though here we leave this as an exercise for the reader, with just these sample pointers to stimulate reflection: preventative health care saves enormous amounts in medical costs later, and is a good efficiency. Eating your extra children (this is Swift’s character’s “modest proposal”) would be a bad efficiency. Any harm to people for profit is likewise bad, no matter how efficient. Using an over-sized vehicle to get from point A to point B is a bad inefficiency, and there are many more like it; but oxbows in a river, defining a large flood plain, is a good inefficiency. On and on it goes like this; all four categories need further consideration if the analysis of the larger situation is to be helpful.
The orienting principle that could guide all such thinking is often left out, but surely it should be included and made explicit: we should be doing everything needed to avoid a mass extinction event. This suggests a general operating principle similar to the Leopoldian land ethic, often summarized as “what’s good is what’s good for the land.”[cmt 2] In our current situation, the phrase can be usefully reworded as “what’s good is what’s good for the biosphere.” In light of that principle, many efficiencies are quickly seen to be profoundly destructive, and many inefficiencies can now be understood as unintentionally salvational. Robustness and resilience are in general inefficient; but they are robust, they are resilient. And we need that by design.
The whole field and discipline of economics, by which we plan and justify what we do as a society, is simply riddled with absences, contradictions, logical flaws, and most important of all, false axioms and false goals. We must fix that if we can. It would require going deep and restructuring that entire field of thought. If economics is a method for optimizing various objective functions subject to constraints, then the focus of change would need to look again at those “objective functions”. Not profit, but biosphere health, should be the function solved for; and this would change many things. It means moving the inquiry from economics to political economy, but that would be the necessary step to get the economics right. Why do we do things? What do we want? What would be fair? How can we best arrange our lives together on this planet?
Our current economics has not yet answered any of these questions. But why should it? Do you ask your calculator what to do with your life? No. You have to figure that out for yourself.
Maybe they meant that the student rushes/half asses tasks. Doing them quickly doesn't imply them being correct.
I assume it depends on the quality of the work actually done, versus the quality that using the allotted time would have allowed. Scantron test? 100 is 100. Essay question (or particularly a term paper) that's nice enough but not very thorough? Maybe the teacher has a point.
I was also absolutely told this by at least one teacher, and in my case they weren't wrong.
I was also absolutely told this by at least one teacher, and in my case they weren’t wrong.
Can you provide evidence to your point without having to listen to a 3+ minute song?
I could, but that feels like way too much work.
Thats fair.
They literally provide two examples on quality of work vs time spent on work before the song link.
Those two examples are not evidence, they are suppositions. They may be fine suppositions, but the poster provided a link that appears, by context, to be actual evidence. I respected the poster enough to ask what they meant by the song instead of just dismissing it.
Are you seriously asking for evidence on this? That some work should be done meticulously and some work can be done quickly and that it can be situational?
Really?
I was asking about the song. Thats it. If you want to listen to a 3+ minute song to get a better understanding of the poster, you're welcome to. I'm not. If you want to accept the poster's points without the song, you're welcome to. I was interested in the poster's viewpoint. They included a song which appeared to hold a large part of their viewpoint with respect to an experience with a teacher. I still have no idea what they're talking about with the song. They communicated they aren't interested in explaining more. I've accepted that. If you really want to wrap yourself around the axle on this feel free. I won't be responding to you anymore.
Nah you were being snarky and you know it.
Always did my homework on Friday night. Another girl on the bus would start her homework two periods before school ended and also finished on the bus ride home.
I did that, but on the ride to school.
I used to sleep in class. But only after doing all of my work. I had ONE teacher who agreed that as long as the work got done, and I wasn’t disturbing anybody else, she would let me sleep.
Of course she was a first year teacher, so she probably didn’t know better.
My dad did this to me once when I was a kid. I was helping bring in the groceries and was carrying as much as I could (which was a lot, but obviously not more than I could handle) and my dad told me it was a "lazy man's load" that pissed me off pretty badly. I was helping dickhead. I can't remember almost anything from my childhood, but I'll never forget that shitty comment.
That's so weird. Even today I try to get as many grocery bags upstairs as I can in one go, because who wants to bother with the back and forth if they don't have to? There's an art to managing six bags of heavy groceries across your arms, a relief that I can get all the cold and frozen things put away sooner, and the natural reward of being able to move onto another activity more quickly. I fail to see what's wrong with being efficient with chores and errands.
Just as an example - when you're on a limited income and the kid just dropped the eggs and broke all of them because they insisted they weren't carrying too much but that was the budgeted eggs for the week.
Then you'll learn why your parents were asking you to do that chore in a specific way.
I wouldn't call a kid lazy because I think they might break the chickens' menstrual discharge. I'd let them make the mistake first, and then remind them next time if they kept overdoing it. Kids need to make mistakes, it's part of growing up and learning.
when I was a kid. I was helping bring in the groceries and was carrying as much as I could (which was a lot, but obviously not more than I could handle)
Y'know that children are notoriously bad at judging things like that, right? Obviously I don't know the guy, but I would have easily said this as a joke at how many things my kid was trying to carry at once even though that ups the odds of dropping and breaking things.
I love my dad, but he is an asshole. Knowing him as an adult, I feel confident it was a shitty comment and not a lighthearted joke. But yeah, I was a kid so 🤷
If children are notoriously bad at judging things like that, then it's on the adults around them to recognize that fact and adjust their responses accordingly.
My mom didn't care that her "jokes" upset me, she just told me I had to "learn to laugh at myself." But I didn't have the self esteem to do that, nor the ability to see her point from her adult perspective. So to me, it just sounded like my mom was bullying me and dismissing my concerns the same way kids at school did.
Humans are pretty bad at communication and there are a bunch of different ways a joke like that could have landed and it's all dependent on the people involved.
One person's joke to gently point out that their kid is probably grabbing too much stuff can easily be another person's brusque and dismissive comment about their kid being lazy.
I'm sorry that your feelings were hurt by your mom.
Thank you. It's true, context is important. Some dynamics might allow for a back and forth.
Overall, I just wish more adults would recognize the impacts their words can have on their kids. Once trust is gone, it's hard to rebuild.
Or I can just do nothing anyway and then feel bad about it 😎
There is no problem. If you can do 8 hours of work (well) in 4 hours, you should be able to use the extra time however you want.
The only way it makes any sense is if you did it quickly and sloppily.
If you were doing it quickly and to anything approaching a reasonable approximation of 'your best', then the teacher was just frustrated that the work was too easy for you any they hated seeing anyone getting a break but they saw no way to give you more work than the other kids. Most likely because they were too lazy to come up with a good tiered lesson plan.
The problem was that the work tasks were supposed to occupy the students as well as teach them. The teacher was annoyed because this kind of student requires more attention than a student kept busy for the allotted time.
The idea that educating students is the primary goal of school at any level is naive. Everything up to the High-School level is half job-training and half daycare. Education is something that the student may pursue, but it's optional.
me to teacher: well that just makes you a shitty teacher then, doesn't it?
Sounds like a praise to me.
Mainly because fast and wrong is still wrong. Similar to the old: haste makes waste.
he was fast and right tho
certainly in his own mind.
Intellectually lazy. And if you sat there doing nothing and didn't figure that out, and still to this day haven't figured that out...
So what do you suggest? Busy work?
It's not a student's job to teach themself. If a student excels, they're a special needs student.
To me, this looks like an obvious failure on the teacher's side.
To me it sounds like he put in the bare minimum effort and did not make a good faith attempt. I could be wrong though but it's a fair guess.
The teacher could add criteria to force him to work harder, but he's probably going to cheese that too. Can't force him to engage. Have you never met one of those people that will work hard to strictly do the bare minimum?