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What would you add?

10d 10h ago by piefed.blahaj.zone/u/LadyButterfly in mentalhealth from piefed.cdn.blahaj.zone

Don't try to be better than others. Try to be better than your previous self.

Also, if your words fall on deaf ears, save them for the listening pair.

aren't these talking points on the sociopath spectrum?

I would really like to know what exactly looks sociopathic to you in that list

"other people's feelings are not my responsibility" can be used to justify treating others badly. As in, I get to say whatever I want, and if you don't like what I say about you, that's entirely your problem.

This is likely intended to speak to people who've been conditioned to take on others' emotional burdens. It's a common theme for some of us, especially if we were raised by parents that made their feelings their kids' problems. Some of us have to take years, or even decades, to unlearn not feeling responsible because somebody mercurial finds it easier to blame us than to take emotional accountability for themselves.

If that's an unfamiliar situation to you, consider yourself lucky. This isn't for those that already have a healthy sense of self-esteem and confidence. This is for those that struggle to accept themselves because they've been emotionally twisted by others so intensely, that they need reminders of their own worth.

same with I don't need permission to prioritize myself.

try telling that to your child

What the other commenter said, abusers love to make their victims feel responsible for their own abuse.

Also, other people's feelings are not my responsibility doesn't mean I don't get consequences if I hurt someone, it means my safety and my boundaries are valid even if someone hates them enough to cry about them.

That kinda muddles up feelings, behaviours and reactions into a mix there...

I am responsible for my actions since I control them.

I am responsible for my intentions because I choose them.

I am not responsible for other People's feelings or reactions because I can not control them.

If something I'm responsible for causes harm then I choose to make amends.

I'm not sure about all that, but they don't seem very healthy despite the cute animals.

What part doesn’t seem healthy?

I suppose it's the all encompassing nature. I understand what is meant, but as mantras, they feel incomplete. Also, I didn't mean it as something super controversial. Ha. But, fwiw.

Others peoples feeling are not my responsibility.

"Not my responsibility" I'm sure means not taking on others baggage. However, it would feel wrong not to consider my partner's feelings, for example. That is a responsibility I honor.

Saying no is a form of self respect.

Again, this makes sense if the ability/agency to say no is a necessary reminder. But it very much matters what you are saying no to. You can say no in ways that don't command self respect.

Just because I think it, doesn't make it true.

It's good to check one's self on over thinking or negative thinking. But it could also seen as encouraging a lack of self confidence.

I don't have to earn rest.

This ones fine and feels more complete in that "have to" is a good reminder when required. In fact, it's because I prefer to earn rest that it makes forna good aphorism!

I don't need permission to prioritize myself.

Surely, if you ignore self-care then a reminder can be helpful. But there is a time to prioritize others and that "permission" to choose yourself can come from healthy empathy for other people.

Fuck em all. YOLO.